The Rhythm — The Magic Spice
We went through the technique, we went through all the aspects that require awareness and understanding. But what will you do now with all this information? What is the magic spice that will make your sexual activities amazing? How do you connect everything into a complete experience? The answer is rhythm.
Rhythm is the hardest part of the story because it requires understanding, concentration, fairness, self-control, and overall attention.
There Is No Single Rhythm
There is no single setting or guideline for the rhythm you should act on in a sexual activity. Each person has a different rhythm, each situation has a different tempo, and the rhythm itself is not a constant thing. The sexual rhythm is similar to waves: slow, fast, strong, gentle, in an irregular cycle. Each moment has its own rhythm — and you need to read your partner's body language to understand which rhythm will suit her in the next moment.
Give First
Your partner also wants to enjoy, remove some of her mental barriers, and truly experience with openness and confidence. Take it as a fact that your rhythm is likely to be different, because a woman usually warms up slower than a man. Therefore, the man should be the first to give — to arouse her. Giving first is generous and the way of a gentleman. Remember: to receive — you must know how to give.
Self-Control
When a man enters a certain rhythm that pleases him, he will tend to keep it until orgasm, increasing rhythm and intensity towards the end. You need to be aware of this scenario — notice it when it happens and focus on self-control to slow down.
The urge to accelerate is natural. What separates an ordinary lover from an extraordinary one is the ability to pause, breathe, and return to the rhythm of the moment — not the rhythm of the destination.
Synchronized Attention
Pay attention that you are synchronized with your partner's rhythm — and do not try to tune her to your own rhythm. To understand the rhythm, attention plays a crucial role: hear your partner's breathing rhythm and her small moans, feel her body language. Valuable attention is one that gives your partner the feeling that you truly see her — before, during, and after the sexual activity.
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